21 Things to Keep OFF Your Dating Menu – Part 2

21 Things Dating Menu-Part2_graphics In Part 1 of “21 Things to Keep OFF Your Dating Menu,” I shared the first 10 of 21 key ingredients for healthy dating. I whole heartedly believe that single people need sound guidance when making relationship decisions. In Part 2, let’s address the other 11 ingredents.

11. Assuming They Are the Key to Your Happiness

    • Find happiness within yourself first. Go into a relationship already happy and fulfilled. If the other person becomes the key to your happiness, then what happens if one day the door closes on your relationship and the key gets thrown away?

12. Trusting What They Say More Than Their Actions

    • Actions really do speak louder than words. Trust actions more so than words.

13. Losing Your Patience

    • Patience in any new relationship is essential. Allow time and lengthy conversations to develop your relationship. Patience is evidence of growth and keeps you from behaving in ways that lack character.

14. Isolating Friends and Family

    • Don’t allow a new relationship to isolate you from those who love you and have been with you through thick and thin. Your new love interest should fall in line with the flow of your current relationships.

15. Ignoring Red Flags

    • A red flag is a warning sign. Don’t make the mistake of ignoring something that clearly screams “Danger!” The advice from family, friends and mentors shouldn’t automatically be dismissed because of your feelings for the person you’re dating.

16. Compromising Your Values

    • Any relationship that causes you to constantly compromise your values and standards isn’t worth it. Cut the relationship before cutting your value system.

17. Compromising Your Self-Worth

    • It takes commitment to build self-worth in the first place. So don’t accept a relationship that devalues your worth. It’s not normal and really not worth it long term.

18. Ignoring Sound Judgement and Wisdom

    • Since when does “love” overshadow making wise decisions? Love won’t cause you to act foolishly and compromise. So using wisdom, good judgement and discretion is the way to demonstrate the intangibles of love.

19. Taking on Mutual Financial Obligations

    • Too many people take on the other person’s debt or go into mutual debt too early in the dating phase. Leave the mutual financial commitments for after the ring.

20. Not Sharing Your Dreams

    • As in point #17 above, dreams and self-worth must be protected and not compromised for the sake of a relationship. What God destined for your life has to be known by the person you’re dating. Otherwise, how else would you know if the support is there or will be in the future?

21. Putting Your Life on Hold

    • Dating should never become a distraction from achieving your best at everything you do. Keep moving forward with your life. The other person’s life should complement your own. So don’t “pause for the cause.” There is too much to accomplish.

I hope you enjoyed the “21 Things to Keep OFF Your Relationship Menu.” Feel free to comment and share with friends!

As always, Stay Focused. Keep Moving. Never Go Back. Trust God! -Mr. Focus